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Therapy for perfectionism and never feeling good enough
CBT-based therapy for adults caught in high standards, self-criticism, and burnout.
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4.95from 113 reviews
In-network with
- UnitedHealthcare
- Aetna
- Medicare
- Oscar Health
- Meritain Health
- Oxford Health Plans
- Cigna
- Optum
- Highmark BCBS WNY
- Univera Healthcare
- MagnaCare
- Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield
Industry-leading, structured care
Progress measured monthly, not guessed at
We respond within one business day
Every clinician state-licensed
Why MindView
Most therapy for Perfectionism has no structure. Ours has four stages and a scoreboard.
Most practices deliver therapy for Perfectionism however the therapist you happened to get was trained. We run one format for every client, and we measure it.
- 01
Intake
What is actually going on, rated 0 to 10 as your baseline.
- 02
Your history
Why it is happening. History, relationships, work, health.
- 03
Treatment plan
Written and collaborative, built against those causes.
- 04
Monthly review
Standardized measures, reviewed with you. You see the trend.
A license is where our training starts, not where it ends.
Every clinician is state-licensed before they see a single client. Then they train with us across every modality, and how to match one to the problem in front of them.
What clients say
4.95 averagefrom 113 reviews
- 5 out of 5 stars
MindView Therapy has great customer service and is very flexible, with good therapist availability and clear communication of any changes. Genuinely a great place for therapy with zero judgement.
Kailani M.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The support staff was very helpful in assisting me to find the right provider. And the provider they found me is personable, a good listener, has good advice, and appears to be quite knowledgeable. I'm very happy with my decision to go with MindView.
Kevin R.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I truly felt seen, heard and understood by my therapist. Goals and next step expectations were clearly explained for processing.
Diane S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I had a great onboarding experience with MindView. My therapist took the time to do a really thorough intake, which I appreciated, and the staff keeps communication clear and consistent. Plus, they handled my insurance verification hassle free.
Jennifer P.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I'm new to this therapy place, however the couples therapist we are seeing is amazing so far. She's a great listener and I can't wait to see how much further we can get with her guidance.
Maritza M.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Great therapists, excellent customer service.
Meta
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- 5 out of 5 stars
My therapist has been incredibly supportive and compassionate. She creates a safe, welcoming space, and I truly feel heard and understood. I'm very grateful for her guidance. Highly recommend.
Laura S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The clinician is helpful. I would recommend this to my friends. I can communicate better with my family members. Thanks for your cooperation.
Sharmin S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The process to find a therapist was very smooth and quick. The intake did take some time, but it was a very thorough process. Overall a great service and very helpful.
Jorge Z.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Helpful, and they let you know everything in advance.
Naphtali S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
MindView Therapy has been wonderful to work with. The team is kind, responsive, and made the entire process feel easy from the start. I always felt heard and supported, and I really appreciate the compassionate care I've received. Highly recommend.
Angela D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had a great experience with MindView. They are easy to communicate with and handle my needs quickly. I've had some great sessions with my therapist and would highly recommend checking them out.
Kylah B.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
My therapist has done a great job of teaching me how to translate my thoughts into personal feelings, as well as helpful techniques to deal with my anxiety.
Ladale N.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I cannot say enough good things about my counselor. From the very start she made me feel heard, respected, and supported without judgement. She is a great listener and challenges me to grow in healthy ways.
Barbara D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
She is such a great therapist. She really listens to what you are saying and helps you figure out situations.
Leah D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The process from start to finish is made so easy. You get assigned to someone quickly and can choose from various time slots to work around your schedule. No sitting on a phone waiting, just quick and to the point with every step.
Shannon G.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had such a positive experience with MindView Therapy. The sessions have given me so much clarity and practical tools to handle life's ups and downs. I feel more equipped and confident moving forward. If you are looking for a supportive and insightful therapy experience, I highly recommend them.
Lucie L.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
She is an amazing therapist. She understands me and where I am coming from without hesitation. It is a complete judgement-free zone.
Barbie Z.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had a really wonderful experience at MindView. My therapist is a great listener and always made me feel heard and understood. I've seen meaningful progress. Would recommend.
Manana D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Kind, helpful, and good at what they do! My therapist is truly one-of-a-kind, and has helped me so much.
Nick B.
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Perfectionism is a pattern of holding yourself to standards nothing can meet, then treating any shortfall as proof you are failing. It drives procrastination, anxiety, and burnout. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps you separate high standards from harsh self-judgment, so your drive stops costing you your health.
Does this sound like you?
- I put things off for weeks because I cannot face doing them badly.
- I hit the goal and feel nothing, then immediately move the goal.
- I reread the same email six times before I send it.
- One piece of criticism can ruin my whole week.
- I work late to fix things nobody else would even notice.
- I say I am fine and I have not felt rested in years.
- If I am not the best at it, I would rather not do it at all.
You do not have to be in crisis to start. If several of these sound familiar, therapy can help.
If several of these sound familiar, that is worth talking about.
Choose a time and send your request. It takes about 30 seconds and one short form.
Perfectionism rarely travels alone. It often shows up as imposter syndrome, the fear of being exposed as a fraud, and as high-functioning anxiety. If you want practical steps, read how to overcome perfectionism.
What is perfectionism?
Perfectionism is not simply having high standards. Plenty of people have high standards and sleep fine.
Perfectionism is the pattern where the standard cannot be met, and falling short is treated as evidence about your worth. The bar moves the moment you reach it. Good work is redefined as the minimum, and the minimum is never enough.
The American Psychological Association treats chronic pressure of this kind as a genuine health risk, not a personality quirk. Left alone, it tends to end in burnout.
Why does perfectionism cause procrastination?
This surprises people. Perfectionists are often the ones who cannot start.
The logic is simple once you see it. If any work short of flawless proves something bad about you, then not starting is safer than starting. Delay protects you from a verdict.
So the report sits unopened. The email goes unsent. The project you care most about is the one you avoid hardest, because it is the one that would hurt to do imperfectly. Then the delay itself becomes more evidence of failure, and the criticism gets louder.
What does CBT do about it?
MindView uses cognitive behavioral therapy, which is well suited to this because perfectionism runs on specific, catchable thoughts.
The first move is noticing the rules you are living under. Most are unspoken. If I am not exceptional, I am worthless. If I need help, I am weak. If I rest, I am lazy. Written down plainly, most of these rules do not survive daylight.
The second move is testing them. Your therapist helps you run small experiments: send the email after one read instead of six, leave the slide deck at good enough, take the evening off. Then you look at what actually happened, which is almost never what the rule predicted.
The third move is the self-talk itself. Harsh self-criticism is not a performance strategy, even though it feels like one. Learning to be demanding without being cruel is a skill, and it is trainable.
Perfectionism also has a social layer that people miss. Many perfectionists cannot delegate, cannot ask for help, and cannot let a colleague or a partner do a task at 80% without redoing it. That behavior is expensive, and it usually costs relationships before it costs a job.
There is often a history underneath it as well. Praise that only arrived for achievement. A parent who was never quite satisfied. A childhood where being useful was how you stayed safe. You do not have to excavate all of that to make progress, but naming where the rule came from usually makes it easier to stop obeying it.
The endpoint is not indifference. It is being able to do something well, call it finished, and go home.
Will I lose my edge?
This is the question almost everyone asks, and the fear behind it is real: that the criticism is the engine, and without it you will collapse into mediocrity.
The work does not target your standards. It targets the fear and the self-punishment that ride along with them. Those are separable, even though they have been fused together for a long time.
What most people find is that the fear was never the engine. It was the drag. Work driven by dread is slower, more avoidant, and more exhausting than work driven by care.
It is worth being honest about the cost of waiting. Perfectionism ends in burnout more often than it ends in achievement, and the burnout tends to arrive suddenly, after years of holding it together. People rarely come in at the point where it would have been easiest to address.
Can I get therapy for this by telehealth?
Yes. Sessions are conducted by telehealth, and it tends to matter here, because the people most tangled in perfectionism are the ones least willing to give up a commute’s worth of work time.
Video sessions remove that excuse. The care is the same, and it is easier to keep. MindView serves adults in Jamaica, Queens, and Buffalo.
What comes next?
If you have hit every goal and felt nothing, and you cannot remember the last time you rested without guilt, that is worth taking seriously now rather than after you break.
You can book a session online in a few minutes, or call (646) 493-4007. We are in-network with most major plans, accepting new clients, and we respond within one business day.
What does it look like?
- •Holding yourself to standards nothing seems to meet
- •Harsh self-criticism
- •Procrastination or fear of failure
- •Trouble relaxing or feeling satisfied
- •Burnout or chronic stress
Who is this for?
- •Adults whose standards drive stress or burnout
- •High achievers who feel they can never do enough
- •Anyone wanting a kinder, more sustainable approach
What does therapy here actually look like?
The first three sessions follow a clear structure, so you always know what is coming next.
- The first session
Your first session is an intake. You describe what brought you in, where the standards came from, and what they cost you. You rate the intensity of the pressure and self-criticism from 0 to 10, and that rating becomes your baseline. You set a recurring weekly time before you leave.
- Mapping what is behind it
Your therapist walks through your life across stages, looking for the patterns and strengths behind the perfectionism, including how the rules were learned and where they still serve you. You can decline any question.
- Setting the goals
You and your therapist build the plan together. Goals are tied to the all-or-nothing thinking, the procrastination, and the self-criticism, each with concrete objectives. You also set one personal goal that matters to you and is not tied to a diagnosis.
- Ongoing
Weekly sessions work the plan. You run small experiments that loosen a rule, look at what actually happened, and work on the self-talk that follows. Once a month you and your therapist review standardized measures together to see whether the pressure is easing, and the plan is adjusted from what they show.
Therapy here is measured, not guessed
Once a month you have a measurement-based care review. You complete standardized measures, and your therapist reviews the trend with you. If something is not working, the plan changes. Regular therapy is the work. The review is the navigation system that keeps it pointed at the right target.
Sessions are weekly for the first two months to build a foundation, then frequency is reassessed with you. You set the pace, and you share only what you are comfortable sharing.
You do not have to figure this out alone.
Choose a time and send your request. It takes about 30 seconds and one short form.
Common questions
Do you take insurance, and what will this cost me?
We are in-network with most major plans. In New York: UnitedHealthcare, Aetna, Medicare, Oscar Health, Meritain Health, Oxford Health Plans, Cigna, Optum, Highmark BCBS WNY, Univera Healthcare and MagnaCare. We confirm your benefits before your first session.
What happens in the first session?
Your therapist asks where your standards came from, what they are costing you, and where they genuinely serve you. You leave with a clearer picture of the pattern and a plan for what to work on.
How long does this take, and does it work?
Perfectionism work is usually a matter of months, not years, and it depends on what you practice outside the room. Your therapist tracks progress with you and will be honest about it. We do not promise a specific result.
Do I need a diagnosis to get help with this?
No. Perfectionism is not a diagnosis. It is a pattern, and it is a legitimate reason to start therapy on its own.
Can I do this by telehealth, and how soon can I be seen?
Yes. This work is well suited to video sessions and fits around a demanding schedule, which matters for the people who need it most. We are accepting new clients and typically respond within one business day.
Will therapy lower my ambition?
No. The target is the self-criticism and the all-or-nothing thinking, not your standards. Most people find they get more done, not less, once fear of failure stops driving the work.
How do you overcome perfectionism?
Overcoming perfectionism is not about lowering your standards; it is about loosening the all-or-nothing rules and harsh self-judgment underneath them. It helps to practice good-enough, tolerate the discomfort of imperfection, and separate your worth from your output. Cognitive behavioral therapy is well suited to this, helping you test perfectionistic beliefs and build a steadier, kinder, and often more productive way of working.
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- 3
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Your first session is an intake. Your therapist asks what brought you in, and you set a weekly time together.
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