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Infidelity counseling to help you heal after a betrayal
Therapy for couples and individuals working through the aftermath of an affair or broken trust.
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- UnitedHealthcare
- Aetna
- Medicare
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- Cigna
- Optum
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- MagnaCare
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Industry-leading, structured care
Progress measured monthly, not guessed at
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Every clinician state-licensed
Why MindView
Most therapy for Infidelity Counseling has no structure. Ours has four stages and a scoreboard.
Most practices deliver therapy for Infidelity Counseling however the therapist you happened to get was trained. We run one format for every client, and we measure it.
- 01
Intake
What is actually going on, rated 0 to 10 as your baseline.
- 02
Your history
Why it is happening. History, relationships, work, health.
- 03
Treatment plan
Written and collaborative, built against those causes.
- 04
Monthly review
Standardized measures, reviewed with you. You see the trend.
A license is where our training starts, not where it ends.
Every clinician is state-licensed before they see a single client. Then they train with us across every modality, and how to match one to the problem in front of them.
What clients say
4.95 averagefrom 113 reviews
- 5 out of 5 stars
MindView Therapy has great customer service and is very flexible, with good therapist availability and clear communication of any changes. Genuinely a great place for therapy with zero judgement.
Kailani M.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The support staff was very helpful in assisting me to find the right provider. And the provider they found me is personable, a good listener, has good advice, and appears to be quite knowledgeable. I'm very happy with my decision to go with MindView.
Kevin R.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I truly felt seen, heard and understood by my therapist. Goals and next step expectations were clearly explained for processing.
Diane S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I had a great onboarding experience with MindView. My therapist took the time to do a really thorough intake, which I appreciated, and the staff keeps communication clear and consistent. Plus, they handled my insurance verification hassle free.
Jennifer P.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I'm new to this therapy place, however the couples therapist we are seeing is amazing so far. She's a great listener and I can't wait to see how much further we can get with her guidance.
Maritza M.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Great therapists, excellent customer service.
Meta
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- 5 out of 5 stars
My therapist has been incredibly supportive and compassionate. She creates a safe, welcoming space, and I truly feel heard and understood. I'm very grateful for her guidance. Highly recommend.
Laura S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The clinician is helpful. I would recommend this to my friends. I can communicate better with my family members. Thanks for your cooperation.
Sharmin S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The process to find a therapist was very smooth and quick. The intake did take some time, but it was a very thorough process. Overall a great service and very helpful.
Jorge Z.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Helpful, and they let you know everything in advance.
Naphtali S.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
MindView Therapy has been wonderful to work with. The team is kind, responsive, and made the entire process feel easy from the start. I always felt heard and supported, and I really appreciate the compassionate care I've received. Highly recommend.
Angela D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had a great experience with MindView. They are easy to communicate with and handle my needs quickly. I've had some great sessions with my therapist and would highly recommend checking them out.
Kylah B.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
My therapist has done a great job of teaching me how to translate my thoughts into personal feelings, as well as helpful techniques to deal with my anxiety.
Ladale N.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I cannot say enough good things about my counselor. From the very start she made me feel heard, respected, and supported without judgement. She is a great listener and challenges me to grow in healthy ways.
Barbara D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
She is such a great therapist. She really listens to what you are saying and helps you figure out situations.
Leah D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
The process from start to finish is made so easy. You get assigned to someone quickly and can choose from various time slots to work around your schedule. No sitting on a phone waiting, just quick and to the point with every step.
Shannon G.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had such a positive experience with MindView Therapy. The sessions have given me so much clarity and practical tools to handle life's ups and downs. I feel more equipped and confident moving forward. If you are looking for a supportive and insightful therapy experience, I highly recommend them.
Lucie L.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
She is an amazing therapist. She understands me and where I am coming from without hesitation. It is a complete judgement-free zone.
Barbie Z.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
I've had a really wonderful experience at MindView. My therapist is a great listener and always made me feel heard and understood. I've seen meaningful progress. Would recommend.
Manana D.
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- 5 out of 5 stars
Kind, helpful, and good at what they do! My therapist is truly one-of-a-kind, and has helped me so much.
Nick B.
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Infidelity counseling is therapy for couples and individuals dealing with the aftermath of an affair. It gives the recovery a structure: honest accountability, rebuilding emotional safety, then restoring closeness. At MindView, licensed therapists guide that process without taking sides and without pushing you to stay or to leave.
Does this sound like you?
- You have asked for the details a hundred times and each answer helps for about an hour.
- You check the phone. You hate that you check the phone. You check the phone.
- You have apologized so many times the words have stopped meaning anything to either of you.
- You are functioning at work and coming apart in the driveway.
- You cannot tell whether you want to repair this or just want it to stop hurting.
- You are still in the house, sleeping three feet apart, and it is unbearable.
You do not have to be in crisis to start. If several of these sound familiar, therapy can help.
If several of these sound familiar, that is worth talking about.
Choose a time and send your request. It takes about 30 seconds and one short form.
What is infidelity counseling?
Infidelity counseling is therapy for the aftermath of an affair, for couples and for individuals. Its job is to give the recovery a structure, because the version that happens at home tends to loop.
The hurt partner is often dealing with something that behaves like trauma: intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, sleep loss, and a compulsive need for details that never quite settles. This is a normal response to a shattered assumption, not an overreaction.
The partner who had the affair is frequently stuck too, in guilt, defensiveness, or the belief that having apologized should be enough. Persistent symptoms on either side, if they last two weeks or more, are worth professional support, as NIMH advises.
Why do the conversations at home make it worse?
Because they have no structure and no end. The same question gets asked at midnight, answered badly, and reopens the wound, and both people leave the room worse than they entered it.
The hurt partner is searching for something that will make the world make sense again. No detail delivers that, so the search continues. The other partner, exhausted and ashamed, starts minimizing or hiding, which confirms exactly the fear driving the questions.
That is a closed loop, and it will not exhaust itself. It needs a container and a sequence, which is most of what a therapist provides here.
How does affair recovery work?
Research-based approaches move through stages, in order, because the order matters. You cannot rebuild closeness on top of a foundation that is still lying to you.
The first stage is honest accountability, and it is more than an apology. It means the full truth is on the table, and it means the partner who had the affair carries the weight of it without deflecting into what the marriage did to them.
The second stage is rebuilding emotional safety. That is where the flooding, the checking, and the intrusive thoughts get worked on directly, and where the relationship starts becoming predictable again.
The third stage is restoring connection, including an honest look at what the relationship was like before the affair. That is not blame for the betrayal. It is the difference between a repair and a truce.
Your first session is an intake, where each of you rates what you are feeling on a 0 to 10 scale. The early work covers each partner’s history, and the treatment plan is built with you out of what it turns up. Sessions run weekly, and once a month you complete standardized measures so you can both see whether the intrusive thoughts, the anxiety, and the sense of safety are actually moving. The plan is adjusted based on what those show.
How much detail should I ask for?
This is one of the most common questions, and the honest answer is that it depends, which is exactly why it is worth doing with a therapist rather than at 1am.
Some information is necessary. The hurt partner generally needs to know the shape of what happened: how long, how serious, whether there was risk to their health, and whether it is genuinely over. Being denied that keeps the ground unstable.
Other detail is corrosive. Graphic specifics tend to install images that do not fade and that get replayed for years. They feel like they will bring relief and they reliably do not.
Your therapist helps you separate the two, and helps the other partner answer honestly without hiding behind “you do not want to know.” Withholding to protect yourself is not protection, and it will be treated as what it is.
Can trust actually be rebuilt?
Some couples do rebuild it, and some do not, and no therapist can tell you in advance which one you are. Anyone who guarantees you an outcome is guessing at your expense.
What is knowable is what the process requires. It requires full honesty, sustained over time, from the partner who broke it. Not one confession, but consistent transparency long past the point where it stops feeling fair.
It requires the hurt partner to eventually be willing to stop prosecuting, if and when the conditions for that exist. That cannot be rushed, and being told to move on is one of the fastest ways to make sure it never happens.
And it requires both of you to look at what the relationship actually was. Not to justify the affair, but because a marriage returned to its previous state is a marriage returned to conditions that neither of you were happy in.
What if we do not know whether we are staying?
That is where most couples start, and it is a legitimate place to begin. Therapy does not require you to commit to the relationship in order to begin working on it.
Your therapist helps you decide from a considered position rather than in the middle of a crisis, when nobody is thinking clearly. If the decision is separation, therapy supports that path with the same seriousness, especially where children are involved.
You can also come alone. Many people do, either because their partner will not attend or because the betrayal is theirs to process regardless of what happens to the marriage.
What does care at MindView look like?
We work with adults 18 and over in Queens and Buffalo, individually or as couples. Your therapist stays even-handed. Nobody is prosecuted and nobody is excused.
Sessions are conducted by telehealth, which is often what makes it possible for two people in a raw situation to get into a session quickly.
We are in-network with most major insurance plans. Check your coverage, then book a session online or call (646) 493-4007.
What does it look like?
- •Struggling to rebuild trust after an affair
- •Intrusive thoughts, anger, or anxiety about the betrayal
- •Repeated conversations that reopen the wound instead of healing it
- •Uncertainty about whether to stay together
- •Guilt, shame, or difficulty being fully honest
Who is this for?
- •Couples deciding whether and how to rebuild after infidelity
- •Partners who want to repair trust but do not know where to start
- •Individuals coping with the pain of a betrayal
What does therapy here actually look like?
The first three sessions follow a clear structure, so you always know what is coming next.
- The first session
Your therapist hears what brought you in, what happened, and what each of you wants from counseling. You each rate the intensity of what you are feeling, the intrusive thoughts, the anger, the anxiety, the guilt, on a 0 to 10 scale, which becomes the baseline. Ground rules are set so the hour does not become the same fight in a new room, and you set a recurring weekly time.
- The wider picture
Your therapist walks through each partner's history across life stages, looking at family, past relationships, trust, and loss, for the patterns and strengths behind where the relationship is now. You can decline any question you do not want to answer.
- Setting the goals
You build the plan together. Goals are tied to the recovery, with concrete objectives that follow the sequence: honest accountability first, then rebuilding emotional safety, then restoring connection. Each of you also sets one personal goal that matters to you.
- Ongoing
Weekly sessions work the plan, keeping the hard conversations contained so they do not reopen the wound. Once a month you complete standardized measures so you and your therapist can see whether the intrusive thoughts, the anxiety, and the safety in the relationship are changing, and the plan is adjusted based on what those show. If you decide to separate, therapy supports that path too.
Therapy here is measured, not guessed
Once a month you have a measurement-based care review. You complete standardized measures, and your therapist reviews the trend with you. If something is not working, the plan changes. Regular therapy is the work. The review is the navigation system that keeps it pointed at the right target.
Sessions are weekly for the first two months to build a foundation, then frequency is reassessed with you. You set the pace, and you share only what you are comfortable sharing.
You do not have to figure this out alone.
Choose a time and send your request. It takes about 30 seconds and one short form.
Common questions
Do you take insurance, and what will counseling cost?
We are in-network with most major plans. In New York: UnitedHealthcare, Aetna, Medicare, Oscar Health, Meritain Health, Oxford Health Plans, Cigna, Optum, Highmark BCBS WNY, Univera Healthcare and MagnaCare. We confirm your benefits before your first session.
What happens in the first session?
Your therapist hears from both of you about what happened and what you each want from counseling, and sets ground rules so the hour does not become the same argument in a new room. Nothing is decided in session one.
How long does affair recovery take, and can the relationship be saved?
No therapist can guarantee a relationship survives, and you should not trust one who claims otherwise. What therapy provides is a structured, staged process and a therapist who keeps it on track. The timeline depends on both partners.
Do I need a diagnosis to start?
No. A betrayal is not a diagnosis and you do not need one. If trust has broken and you cannot rebuild it on your own, that is enough.
Can we do this by telehealth, and how soon can we start?
Yes. Sessions are conducted by telehealth and most couples are scheduled within days, which matters when the situation is raw and waiting weeks is not realistic.
What if we are not sure we want to stay together?
That is a normal place to begin. Therapy helps you make a considered decision instead of one driven by crisis, whether that ends in repair or in parting with more clarity.
What is infidelity?
Infidelity is a breach of the agreed boundaries of a relationship, usually involving emotional or physical intimacy with someone outside it. What counts as cheating varies between couples, which is part of why it is so painful and confusing. Beyond the act itself, the deepest injury is often the broken trust and secrecy. Counseling helps couples make sense of it and decide what comes next.
What is micro-cheating?
Micro-cheating refers to small behaviors that edge toward emotional or physical infidelity without an obvious affair, such as secret messaging, hiding a connection, or investing emotional energy in someone outside the relationship. Whether it counts as cheating depends on the couple's agreements. It matters because it often signals unmet needs or eroding boundaries, which couples counseling can help address before they widen.
What counts as cheating?
There is no single definition, because couples draw the line differently, some include emotional affairs, secret contact, or online interactions, not just physical ones. What matters is the agreement between partners and the secrecy or betrayal of trust involved. Disagreement about where the line sits is itself worth talking through, and counseling gives couples a place to define and repair it.
How do you get over infidelity?
Getting over infidelity, whether you stay together or not, takes time and support. If you rebuild, it requires the affair fully ending, honesty, and patience as trust returns slowly. If you separate, it means grieving and making sense of what happened. Either path is hard to walk alone; counseling helps you process the pain and decide clearly rather than in crisis.
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